Something Given, Not Borrowed.

Two days I watched the movie Something Borrowed, which I had been dying to watch for some time. 

It was nothing like I expected. That's both a good and bad thing.

Good, because I enjoyed it.

Bad, because I did not enjoy it as much as I thought I would. 

Tell me if this is just me...... 

But there really is a girl and guy code that exists right? 

Well there you go..... and this movie went against all things code in my opinion. 

I honestly believe in code, and if not code, then friendship. 

I believe if a friend likes, dated, or is dating someone then they are automatically off limits. 

This shouldn't even be a rule. This is just standard. 

Guys have codes and they stick by them so well..... uhm well, much better than we ladies do. 

I say......

If your friend knows that you secretly like someone, they have no right to out you in front of said someone, and then if after outing you have the right mind to deny it {still in front of said someone}, and your friend takes that chance to ask said someone out. 

AGAINST CODE.

Who does this? I don't care whether I denied it or not, my best friend should know if I have feelings for the guy right? 

I mean I am only denying it because you are taking the secret out of secret crush. You should know better a s a best friend. 

Any way, this happens and there is pretty much nothing you can do about it. You try act cool, because you don't want to blow the cover you so nicely laid out for yourself. But if said someone (who clearly likes you too) asks you if this is actually okay with you, and looks at you like 'but I like you' and you go on to act all nonchalant and 'you guys make a great couple' then 

THIS IS YOUR FAULT

you had a clear opening to stop what could possibly hurt you, and own up to how you really feel. 

I understand that you can't go from, 'we are just friends' to 'no this is not okay' in five seconds. 

Hello Schizo. 

But, you could just pull your friend aside and tell her stop it, and then have 'the talk 'with said someone the next day.

I also say......

Something that's given should not be taken away. You gave said someone away, and you should go into a corner and sit and think about the decision you just made. But that's it. It's done. 

You can not wait until your best friend, {who by the way you still kept as one} decides to get married to ruin everything for her. 

AGAINST CODE. 

I don't care if you like, or are attracted to someone, but if that person is your best friends fiance then keep it all locked up. 

You will not go and have a one night stand with said person.

If anything ever meant anything to you in the beginning, you sort it out BEFORE they decide to get rings involved.

Any way that happens, and then you decide to continuously see said person behind your best friends back, while she plans the wedding and tells you how much she loves you everyday? 

Who does that? 

Please don't tell me someone in love. 

If both those people mean something to you, the least you can do is tell your best friend upfront that you have feelings for said person, and have for a long time. 

Deal with it that way. things are already messed up, and there are bound to be tears but at least we are being honest. 

Don't try make it a secret. Look how well that turned out for you in the beginning.  

I just say.....

what starts badly, ends badly. 

And I don't know if it's just me but friendship is truly a rare gift.. I would want to keep that above all else. 

and I honestly believe if people are meant to be they will be. But it should never be at the expense of someone else.

What are your thoughts? 

Lu3Lu

xx

Stopping By, To Say.....

I honestly hate it when I go AWOL from my blog for too long.
I actually can't control it sometimes, believe it or not.
But, I'm back... and first things first I would like to welcome my newest followers.

Welcome to Lu3Lus Crossing... you guys make me happy each time I log on and see those little numbers increase. Thank you for visiting and following my tiny space of the internet. I do hope you stay... :)

Secondly, for those who have been following my Friday Fancies, 2 weeks ago I was the winner of the 'Like' competition on {Long Distance Loving} *does cartwheels and back flips, while trying not to break things*
Thank you for everyone that voted for me.
If you want to take part in the fun, and possibly be a winner yourself, head over to {av} and she will take very good care of you.
Take a look here to see the outfit that I created, that got me the most likes.

Because I have been so busy, I haven't got around to doing the things that I actually had lined up. But just to keep you guys posted, I have a guest post coming soon from one of my dear friends, PJ. 
HE, yes he, {he is one of the only male followers I have}, will be joining us soon.
He is into fashion, just like I am, in fact, even more than I am. So I hope he makes you as happy as he makes me daily.

I had a chocolate chip cookie mission that I need to share with you guys... So that is another thing that I will be doing soon.
I had fun doing it, I liked the challenge, and now that I did it... I am sure to set myself some more challenges.
You guys can shoot me ideas too. If there is anything you think I can try tackle in the kitchen, please let me know. As crazy as this sounds I am so serious.... anything at all. (",)

That's it for now friends.
Hope you are having a lovely week.

Lu3Lu
xx

Blog Swap------- > Summer Loving

Hi Friends,

I am excited today to introduce a very lovely girl I met through 20 something bloggers, she is so sweet, and friendly and really just amazing for someone I barely even know. She blogs over at *Extreme & Fabulous*  {please do check it out} and her blog is exactly that. Her about me section had me in giggles, mainly because she sounds exactly like me. I think we have a thing going :)

Any way today we are participating in a blog swap, you can catch me over at her site, and she will be taking hostage of you guys for a little while. Show her some love, you can either leave a comment here, or on her site if you please. 

Without further ado I present to you Simran from Indonesia... :) I hope you enjoy the post as much as I did.

Hello summer lovers ;)!

So, the theme for this blog swap is SUMMER.. :) Well, I come from a country that has summer all year round and on certain months rainy weather. Yes, I come from Jakarta, Indonesia  and for those of you who have 4 seasons don’t get too jealous *wink*.  I am supposed to talk about my summer, honestly, I really have nothing much to talk about but yes it is not my favorite season but I kinda have no choice :).  

The past few as you shall call it SUMMER months have been quite normal but the highlight of my Summer so far would definitely have to be my trip to Bali. For those who have been to Bali, you will know that it is one place that is a must visit :). We in Indonesian call Bali Island “Pulau Dewata” which means Land of the Gods, which according to me no better saying can describe the place.

I had an extremely fruitful trip. I didn't do the fun outdoor activities that you would normally do when going to a beach but I gained a lot in this trip. It is not my first trip, I’ve been to Bali numerous times and love it every time I go there. Thus, I shall share with you what I gained from this trip.

Subsequently,  the past few months has been quite hectic for me and somehow, I started feeling lost in the sense, I complained a lot, became whinny, always mostly negative, never satisfied with what was going on in my life for some reason. I knew within myself this wasn't the person I was. Then out of the blues my parents told me we were going to Bali, I was normal about it didn't want to spoil it by getting overexcited. I have come to a point in life where I don't plan my days, I prefer not to, and when going on a trip I’d just go and see how it goes from there. Upon reaching Bali, that’s it I just felt so at home, so peaceful. That is exactly how my 4(four) days in Bali went by. I stayed at a hotel which had a beach front view from the breakfast&dining area. I enjoyed watching the waves every morning. I promised myself though, that this trip I will not think of literally ANYTHING and be completely relaxed. I kept that promise and literally thought of nothing, I had my cellphone with me but was mostly oblivious of its existence thus I only had a lot to gain and nothing to lose.

I admired nature,  enjoyed views of the beach, sounds of the waves, the stillness of the atmosphere,read a book in silence, watched Traditional Balinese dances, took pictures and the highlight of my trip was having the privilege to witness two of the most beautiful sunsets two days in a row. How awesome is that! :). That indeed was just the highlight of my trip and I didn't have to go to a special place or wait for a specific time as it was just outside the dining area of my hotel by the beach. I have no words to describe how utterly indescribable the feeling was, and  how wondrous the Lord’s creation is that’s what it made me recognize. It’s like it make you feel you are one step closer to the Creator! Best part, I captured the moments, yay! Have attached the pictures below and added two quotes which somewhat describes how I felt:

      

Sunset scenes for two days 

"When I admire the sunset or the beauty of the moon, my soul

expands in worship of the creator" 

Mahatma Ghandi

Sunset of two days – Bali

“To watch a sunset is to connect with the Divine.” – Gina De Gorna

At the end of my trip I felt at peace with myself, completely relaxed and realised so many issues I had and resolved them to, with myself that is. In entirety, I felt like a whole improvised version of me and felt like I actually went on a holiday :). 

Glimpse of Balinese Traditional Dance

For that reason, I recommend this to you too.Yes, if you haven’t visited Bali you totally SHOULD! And, if you go on a holiday, make sure you actually go on a HOLIDAY. Don’t plan, just decide where to go and go. Flow with it and abstain from technology, spend time with your family/friends, enjoy nature and be amazed! Trust me it works wonders cause I’ve tried it *wink*.

That, fellow readers was my Summer. And it is still going on ;). But, it was a journey for me of lessons I learnt by myself and a journey of self-discovery. Everyday, we are striving to become a better version of our self and sometimes even a short trip can make us realize things we probably would not think of amidst the hecticness of the city life. A trip gives us a span of time to stop and think and feel. I hope you all will gain something to from your trips or maybe your everyday life. Hope the summer brought you such moments too. Take time despite your busyness to stop and spend time with yourself, without cellphones, without noise and listen to yourself. This helps a lot in answering all your questions and also makes you worry less about what should and is about happen. You will learn to appreciate your moments more.

Cheers to a better and brighter YOU... Expect the Unexpected!

P.S : To readers who are from Indonesia, I’d like to say to my fellow Indonesians Happy 66th Independence Day! MERDEKA! :) 

What is your definition of SUMMER?

Simran

Happy Birthday Madonna

Madonna turns 53 today!

 

 

 

 

 

How is it possible that she has not aged a day.

To looking like this when we are 53!

 She is such an iconic woman, and I love her. 

Happy Birthday Madonna. 

(",) 

Lu3Lu

xx

Old Love

I been out of the dating game too long now, not that I am complaining. Some things are just much better when you got that special someone in your life. 

Shout out to the Mr.

But, I can't help but notice that so much has changed. 

I kind of get to live the single life through my friends and the stories they tell me and as fun as it might sound, things just aren't done the way they used to be. 

I had a friend say to me not so long ago that to get the attention of a girl, you need to have a blackberry. First of all I thought it was a materialistic sort of statement, that you have to have all the finer things in life to have a girl look your way. 

But, No. he actually meant in order for you to actually speak to the girl, even say 'hi there how are you', you need to be able to reach her the only way she knows how otherwise you are wasting your time.

You can say all you want to her but half of the conversation will be lost on her because she is too busy messaging her friends on her blackberry. 

The only way to get this girls attention is then to join her on BBM, and pull whatever moves you had planned over the phone. You get more points for sending her a voice note than actually striking up normal conversation. 

*sigh*  

What can I say, this is the era I live in and I should probably expect nothing less, but I wish I could go way back in to time, and experience dating their way. When people had meetings by their favorite tree, or have picnics in the meadow, or go on carriage rides. 

Seems more fun and intimate and real. Those were the days when people used to make an effort to please the ones they fancy, and this effort came from the heart and not really the pocket. 

These days all people really ever want to do is go to the movies, cocktail lounge or the club. 

What happened to having picnics in the park? 

I suggested this to the Mr awhile ago, and I got a 'who does picnics these days' 

exactly my point. 

The art of picnics is lost, we would now rather just take someone out to breakfast, than put time and effort in creating a special meal. 

Don't get me wrong, take me out to breakfast any day, please feel free. Just know that there are a million and one other options for next time. We don't have to keep doing the same thing. 

What happened to long walks to nowhere really?

I think romantic walks are so beautiful. Don't you?

The Mr and I took one quite some time ago in my neighborhood and boy was that fun. 

We danced in the street, laughed, talked and just had a ball.

I realize that most of us live in places surrounded by buildings and cars and all sorts of unworldly noises. It's most probably the most unromantic thing you could do taking a walk in such an environment, but let me just tell you that walk the Mr and I took made my day.

We didn't walk far, we didn't plan anything, it just happened, and it made a difference. 

What happened to hand written letters?

 

I had a post about this awhile back, you can take a look at it here, I just don'y understand why such an art can be put to waste. 

Letter writing is the most intimate, sincere way to tell someone how you feel, and I just wish more of us did this. 

What happened to carriage rides?

Okay, so maybe we can't really do this anymore. traveling on horses on these roads we have may be a bit to much, but how fun would this be. 

Just sitting there with your love, enjoying the scenery, not really in a hurry to get anywhere. 

I want to do this one day, and I wish I lived back in the time where they had no choice but to do it. 

Things were really much easier back then. 

*sigh* 

I always say, everything back then was about love, and everything now is about money. 

I will choose the love era any day! 

What are things you guys wish still were in play? Or what do you think about the dating game these days?

{all images from weheartit}

Lu3Lu
xx

Getting Reacquainted With My Kitchen

Lately I have been finding many reasons for me to spend more time in my kitchen. The people that know me well, know that this room is probably the room in the house I spend the least amount of time in.

I swear, if I could make tea anywhere else besides the kitchen, I probably wouldn't know what a kitchen looks like.

I realize this is something I should probably be embarrassed about, you know, being a woman and all.

And I am, but I am not going to deny that I actually like the fact that the Mr can take charge in the kitchen.

I always had this fantasy of marrying a chef one day, and this is the closest I have gotten, so I guess I tend to get a little carried away living my fantasy forgetting that the Mr probably had a fantasy of his own about marrying a girl that would cook for him.... sometimes.

So, I need to do something about this.

I have been watching Master Chef Australia like a bad habit. I swear, it's one of the shows I would probably kill someone over if I missed.

It makes me so excited, hungry too, but mostly excited.

You would think if I enjoy a cooking show that much, the least I could do is practice a recipe or two in the kitchen right?

Well something must have worked, because not so long ago I found myself Googling recipes on the internet.

I was about to move into a new house, and I thought cooking something extraordinary would be a nice little welcome. Three weeks in, nothing.

But that need to do something in the kitchen is still there. Now, I am leaning more towards baking.

I have never really baked a day in my life, and this is quite shameful. I love desserts, and cakes and all things made in the oven, and it's sad that I have to go to the shop every time I have a craving instead of just whip up some amazing mixture and put it in the oven.

This one I will not let go off, so I tried to make a welcome to the new house meal and it failed, this one won't.

And, I need you guys to help me. 

Yesterday I spent the majority of the day trying to find amazing recipes that I could try out. I was looking for simple, yet interesting.

After all that I found namely, nanaimo bars, peanut butter balls, coconut macaroons, yellow butter cake and chocolate crinkles, to name a few.

I decided on chocolate chip cookies.

This is most probably the easiest, and less interesting out of the bunch, I know. But let's face it, they are still the best cookies ever and this is my first time. I want to bake, not create a fire in my house.

I think I have created a challenge for myself, and I accept.

This week next time, I will share my Chocolate Chip Cookie Mission with you, hoping everything goes well.

Wish me luck.

{all images via pinterest}

Any one want to share any baking secrets with me?

Lu3Lu

xx

Friday Fancies #9

Boy aren't we glad it's Friday!

I've had quite a great week, so no complaints.

We good over here. (",)

Here is a little summary....

1. I had Monday and Tuesday off work.

2. It was women's day on Tuesday. {Happy Women's Day to all you fabulous women. Even if you didn't get to celebrate it}

3. I got to lay in and have fun doing nothing all day.

4. I caught up with a good friend over cocktails. Much needed.

5. Developed a new attitude towards thinking about work. Pretend you are doing the job you want/love to do. It works.

The last time I blogged was this past Sunday, I guess I got carried away doing...... you know..... that. But any way, I was not going to miss Friday Fancies this time, so I am back to join {av} and the gang.

This week the theme is the color red

If I am being honest, I am not really a huge fan of the color red... on clothes... for me.

On nail polish yes, lipstick, yes and shoes oh yes.

But clothes, hmmm.
I've never quite gotten round to giving it a try. I must admit though, the color is sassy, classy and powerful.
It's an amazing color and I had fun with it this week. 

I'm hoping the outfit speaks for itself. When I was creating it, I was torn between doing a work suit, or sticking to what I would normally wear. I guess what I would normally wear won, because I definitely see myself in an outfit like this. I love the length of the dress, the straps are not too strappy {if you know what I mean} and I find it great that its backless without being over the top. 

I put a black hat because I think that when you remove the shoes, and all that glamor of the gown, you have a perfect outfit for just laying at the pool if you like, or taking a trip to the vineyards if you please. Or even dropping by a friends house for a cocktail or two in the backyard. 

What say you? 

 Take a look at the outfits that inspired me to want to create a suit. 

Maybe next time huh? 

 

{images from shopbop.com}

 If money was no object, what would you create with the color red? If you want to find out and join in the fun, link up every Friday with {av} on Long Distance Loving. 

You won't regret it.

Any plans this Friday? 

Lu3Lu

xx 

 

Beautiful World, Beautiful People

I've had the most relaxing Sunday yet.

This was exactly what I needed after such a long week, me, myself, the sun and my bed.

It's so hard to come across such peaceful days as this one.

So boy am I grateful.

How has your Sunday treated you?

“The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt

with the heart”

 

Enjoy the week ahead.

(",)

Lu3Lu
xx

Friday Fancies #8

Happy Friday Friends!

I for one am very excited  today, because it's date night with the Mister in a couple of hours, and it feels like it's been forever since we went out.

I'm also very excited because this is my first Friday Fancies in a LONG time. I don't know what has kept me away but boy am I glad to am back with {av} and the gang. 

This weeks topic is one of my favorite. Maxi Dresses.  

I was never really a huge fan of dresses when I was a lot younger. I was more a jeans and t-shirt kinda gal, and I still am. But, nothing says feminine more than a maxi dress does, which is one of the reasons I love them. You can still look and feel comfortable, and look dolled up without the hassle of having to do too much.

The mister is also a huge fan. 

I think I make his day when he sees me wearing one. 

Some of my friends tell me they don't really know what to do with a maxi dress. They feel like there is only one way to wear them. 

I had/have a similar problem myself, which is why I was excited to play around with different looks for my Friday Fancies this week. As I was 'shopping' around for something I can create, I came across this site that showed '100 ways to wear and accessorize a maxi dress'   

I thought, Oh my word, no way. 100? Where have I been all this time. 

See for yourself

 
 

 

 

{images from style amor.com}

I also hear people complaining that they can never wear maxi dresses at night, because it doesn't go.

I say false. 

And this is how I created my Friday Fancies outfits today, one for day and one for night!

Don't forget to link up with {av} if you also want to have fun creating outfits! its a good way to start your Friday, I can promise you that. if money weren't an object what would you have?

If you like my outfit(s) please like them over here:

What are your weekend plans? Do Enjoy!

Lu3Lu
xx