Dinner Party Guests: Marilyn Monroe & Audrey Hepburn

Ever think of who {dead or alive} you would invite to a dinner party? I do, all the time, and even though my list changes changes quite often, almost all the time Marilyn and/or Audrey make the cut.
My mild obsession with Marilyn Monroe started after I watched My Week with Marilyn. Such a beautiful movie, and naturally {because I felt she was a very close friend of mine} I morphed into a mini detective trying to solve the age old mystery of her death. Audrey on the other hand, after finally watching Breakfast at Tiffany's {which I made a promise to do here} I finally got what all the fuss was about. I get that it was a movie, and none of it was real, but I just imagined myself hanging out with the lady on the screen and having an absolute good time.

Regardless, there is a reason why we as women use many of the things Marilyn and Audrey said then to apply to our lives now, because despite being popular for their acting, singing, fashion and style these women inspire young girls and women, in love, friendship, life, and womanhood.
I can definitely raise my hand to testify to this. I have caught myself a time or two relating to something they have said, sticking by it, and trying to apply it to my life, I mean no wonder I want to have them at my dinner party. What other secrets to life are they holding back?

Here are some of my favourites.

Marilyn Monroe

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they are right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together" 

"We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets." 

"Just because you fail once, it doesn't mean you are going to fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on and always always always believe in yourself, because if you don't then who will? So keep your head high, your chin up and most importantly, keep smiling because life is beautiful and there is so much to smile about" 

"It's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring" 

"For those who are poor in happiness, each time is a first time, happiness never becomes a habit." 

"I do not stop when I am tired, I stop when I am done..." 

Audrey Hepburn 

"I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it's the thing I like the most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It's probably the most important thing in a person." 

"You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him"

"As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping  others." 

"I decided very early on, just accept life unconditionally; I have never expected it to do anything special, yet I seemed to accomplish far more than I had ever hoped. Most of the time it just happened without my ever seeking it" 

"I don't take my life seriously, but I do take what I do - in my life - seriously"

I just love these ladies and what they stand for, they inspire {at least me} to go for what I want, be confident and happy as a woman.

Who would you invite to a dinner party?

Lu3Lu

Xx 

Where have all the "ugly" women gone

I came across an article in Glamour magazine that I have not been able to stop thinking about, while I may have forgotten the exact title, I do remember that it went along the lines of "where have all the ugly women gone"...... Okay, maybe this is just me, but have you ever sat with a magazine in front of you, you are ready to read it and as you start all you see are just words in front of you, and in that moment that's all they are, words, because as you stare and flip through that magazine your mind is a million worlds away... well that was me then, but that changed when I came across that article. I was like wait what? Crazy talking Glamour magazine say what?

This article was written by a woman but from a mans perspective, basically he was saying that make up and plastic surgery and all things fashion have completely removed the idea of what woman should look like. As woman we all want to be perfect, we all want to be a size zero (which is not even a size), have a face like Halle Berry, a body like Ciara, teeth like Cameron Diaz, lips like Angelina Jolie and a butt like Jessica Alba. We try rid ourselves of imperfections forgetting that our insecurities and our imperfections make us us. We do the best to hide the scar on our hand, the pimple on our nose, the gap between our teeth, the stretch marks on our butt and we think that these things make us ugly, hence where have all the "ugly" women gone.

If you pick up any magazine from the shelves today you are bound to find gorgeous looking women on the cover who have one thing in common, they all look skinny and sexy. But do women really want to look like that? the answer is yes, and my question is why? there is nothing wrong in looking sexy but there is everything wrong in changing yourself to do that. We like buying the latest skin care products, hair products, fashion items, and make up and comparing ourselves to the model in magazines, but where is the reality in between all that glamour. Which is where the unknown guy in the article I read comes in, do women really know what guys want?

This "what do men/women want?" question has been asked decades ago, is still being asked now and will be asked for decades to come, there just isn't a clear cut answer. So many have tried and today I'm going to try... well as far as physical beauty goes. So buckle up, here goes:

Some may say there is a thin line between reality and fantasy but I say there is a huge difference. When I think about it, men may stare at a woman with triple D size cups, and they may fantasize about being with a super model, but that is as far as it goes. It is all just superficial and does not carry any substance. Personality, confidence, character, now that's substance. I think men want "real' women, and to me a "real" women has faults and imperfections.
There was some random poll that was taken about whether men like a superficial looking woman or a natural looking one, and out of the 1000 men that were asked, 6% of them said they would rather their women have botox than wrinkles, 69% of them said breast implants are not sexy and 50% of them said women should just ditch lipstick altogether.
Men like the wholesome, natural looking woman, not a woman that looks like she has just been unwrapped from a cardboard box written six to twelve years old with a price tag on it.

We should all (men and women) be able to show off our God given assets and not want to change them, after all no joys are comparable by being your own true self. Sexy is being able to just be yourself, we are already so beautiful, all it takes is loving oursleves wholly and completely and once we do that we will be loved by many.


"You're exceptional the way you are
don't need to change for no body
You're incredible, anyone can see that
When will you believe that?
You are nothing but exceptional" - Jojo

Lu3Lu
xx