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Showing posts with label Romance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Romance. Show all posts

Monday, August 15, 2011

Old Love

I been out of the dating game too long now, not that I am complaining. Some things are just much better when you got that special someone in your life. 
Shout out to the Mr.
But, I can't help but notice that so much has changed. 
I kind of get to live the single life through my friends and the stories they tell me and as fun as it might sound, things just aren't done the way they used to be. 


I had a friend say to me not so long ago that to get the attention of a girl, you need to have a blackberry. First of all I thought it was a materialistic sort of statement, that you have to have all the finer things in life to have a girl look your way. 
But, No. he actually meant in order for you to actually speak to the girl, even say 'hi there how are you', you need to be able to reach her the only way she knows how otherwise you are wasting your time.
You can say all you want to her but half of the conversation will be lost on her because she is too busy messaging her friends on her blackberry. 
The only way to get this girls attention is then to join her on BBM, and pull whatever moves you had planned over the phone. You get more points for sending her a voice note than actually striking up normal conversation. 
*sigh*  

What can I say, this is the era I live in and I should probably expect nothing less, but I wish I could go way back in to time, and experience dating their way. When people had meetings by their favorite tree, or have picnics in the meadow, or go on carriage rides. 
Seems more fun and intimate and real. Those were the days when people used to make an effort to please the ones they fancy, and this effort came from the heart and not really the pocket. 

These days all people really ever want to do is go to the movies, cocktail lounge or the club. 

What happened to having picnics in the park? 


I suggested this to the Mr awhile ago, and I got a 'who does picnics these days' 
exactly my point. 
The art of picnics is lost, we would now rather just take someone out to breakfast, than put time and effort in creating a special meal. 
Don't get me wrong, take me out to breakfast any day, please feel free. Just know that there are a million and one other options for next time. We don't have to keep doing the same thing. 

What happened to long walks to nowhere really?


I think romantic walks are so beautiful. Don't you?
The Mr and I took one quite some time ago in my neighborhood and boy was that fun. 
We danced in the street, laughed, talked and just had a ball.
I realize that most of us live in places surrounded by buildings and cars and all sorts of unworldly noises. It's most probably the most unromantic thing you could do taking a walk in such an environment, but let me just tell you that walk the Mr and I took made my day.
We didn't walk far, we didn't plan anything, it just happened, and it made a difference. 

What happened to hand written letters?

 
I had a post about this awhile back, you can take a look at it here, I just don'y understand why such an art can be put to waste. 
Letter writing is the most intimate, sincere way to tell someone how you feel, and I just wish more of us did this. 

What happened to carriage rides?


Okay, so maybe we can't really do this anymore. traveling on horses on these roads we have may be a bit to much, but how fun would this be. 
Just sitting there with your love, enjoying the scenery, not really in a hurry to get anywhere. 
I want to do this one day, and I wish I lived back in the time where they had no choice but to do it. 
Things were really much easier back then. 

*sigh* 

I always say, everything back then was about love, and everything now is about money. 
I will choose the love era any day! 

What are things you guys wish still were in play? Or what do you think about the dating game these days?
{all images from weheartit}

Lu3Lu
xx

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Your Ideal 'Sucker'


We all know how the story goes, boy meets girl, blah blah blah, happily ever after.
This Disney kind of love has been drilled into me since Cinderella lost her shoe and fell in love, and Snow White ate an apple, almost died and fell in love.
I just want to throw in there that this can't be real right?
It's totally unfair how many times I've lost a shoe and never fallen in love because of it? Better yet, how many times have I eaten a rotten apple and achieved only an upset stomach, no prince charming, happily ever after or wedding bells! :/

I think that it's a good thing those stories ended there though, we all need a little fairy tale magic!
We wouldn't want to see what happens when suddenly the prince makes Snow White stop hanging with the seven dwarfs (the jealous dude) or when Cinderella in that huge palace of hers suddenly has to do the cooking, cleaning and the laundry because that prince of hers prefers 'his wife's touch' (the old fashioned dude) or when Beauty suddenly has to fight with her prince for the mirror because he is back to his old ways of me me me (the selfish dude)
That's definitely no prince charming.


I read this article (which inspired this post) talking about how we (as girls) always try to search for prince charming (who I might add not only exists in paper form, but behind the TV screen) and do whatever it takes to find him, even if it means turning down his brother prince I'm just a guy.
It got me thinking, and it's so true.
This idea of the perfect man has got us going crazy, making lists so unrealistic, going on and on about 'I want a guy that plays at least five instruments, takes me on vacations to the most exotic places, appreciates finer things, calls me at least 10 times a day and runs my bath water' and we make ourselves feel better by saying 'that isn't a lot to ask for right? I just want to be happy.'

We might as well just title that list unachievable.

List of unachievable things

No wonder guys always complain about girls trying to change them.
Well duh.
You are supposed to be prince charming.
Instead you are a slob, can too busy for me, a bit jealous at times, don't really know how to express you feelings, don't plan surprises for me, don't call as often enough, hang out with your friends way too much, and still manage to grab my attention.
Who the hell are you?
I could swear when I watched Cinderella I did not sign up for this.

But then again do us females know what we really want?


I know when I was younger, I had this list of what my ideal man should be: funny, handsome, caring, understanding, intelligent. It did not stop there though, as I grew up I kept changing and removing things, for instance instead of just funny anymore, it became have a good sense of humor, and then someone who's jokes I can understand, and now someone who can keep me laughing.
Sound the same?
Not really.
You see when I first wanted someone funny, I didn't realize that that meant that I needed to be able to find him funny, he can't just be funny, he needs to be funny to me. So I said good sense of humor. Again, my sense of humor is not like the next person's so while they think 'why did the chicken cross the road' is flipping hilarious I sure as hell don't.
So I changed it to jokes I can understand, but just because I understand why the chicken crossed the road did not make it any more entertaining so finally someone that can just make me laugh.
You see, I did not know what the hell I wanted. I just made a list and poor guy kept being booted off it.

So I guess the lesson is 1) Prince Charming does not exist and 2) girls don't know what they want even if he did exist.
We would probably try change prince charming.
So.....

Stick to your ideal 'sucker'
He may not call as often as you may want him too, or say the things you want to hear when you want to hear them, or know the difference between lilac and purple, or surprise you with shiny things but as long as he
loves you
respects you
protects you
takes care of you
makes you feel important
You are in business!


Who the hell needs prince charming when you got prince whats his face.

What are some of the qualities you guys look for in a partner?

Lu3Lu
xx