Monday, December 12, 2011

I cry when I watch Glee

I am a crier, no matter how hard I try to deny it sometimes it is true that I cry a lot, even for the smallest things that generally people wouldn't cry for. I cry in movies, I cry when I read books, it's just so sad.

Lately I have been crying when I watch "Glee".
A lot of people are shocked by this... but Glee has this way of tugging at my heart strings, and I love it.
This is honestly one of the best shows I have ever watched! I would hate if it ever got cancelled.
But it is just so funny how I manage to cry all the time, in nearly every episode. Sometimes I rewind a part just so I can cry again.
I know, *hangs head in shame*
But it is just that powerful.
The way they sing, the way they dance, their acting, all of it is so convinving you can't help but get emotionally involved.

A lot of people somehow can't stand Rachel Berry, (Lea Michelle) and I can totally understand where they come from, but when she sings, doesn't all that just go away?
For me it does, She can make me believe anything with that voice of hers. As annoying as she can be, she is awesome.

Maybe I am sick, maybe I need to see someone about this, because just yesterday when I tweeted how I cry when I watch Glee, someone laughed at me. They obviously thought I was crazy. Am I?

Either way, I LOVE GLEE! I love anything that can make me that involved!

Please tell me I am not the only one?  


Sunday, December 11, 2011

It Doesn't Suck To Be You

My mother has this tradition of always making us say what we are grateful for everyday. At first I thought, do we need to? I am thankful for everything. But when it came down to actually being specific, it really put things in perspective for me. So often do we take the things that come our way for granted, we don't actually take the time to appreciate how blessed we are because of these things, and how blessed we are because not a lot of people get to have the same opportunities we do. Some of these things may be small, like I am grateful for the rain, but not so long ago I heard that about 70 elephants were killed in Victoria Falls because of the heat. AND THAT is not something to take lightly. Imagine what those elephants could have done with a little rain. 

10 Things I Am Thankful For Lately

1. The fact that I am surrounded by family. It is truly the best feeling being around the people that you love the most and that love you the most.

2. The Mr and my inspiration. He is truly the best, and even though I am always thankful for him. I realize more and more everyday that he is someone I admire too. He shows such strength when things go wrong, and a lot of people can take a lesson from him. Including myself. 

3. One of my best friends babies. She recently gave birth to an amazing little boy named Christian and I am IN LOVE! 

Look at this little buba!

4.  Being able to complete something I have put my mind too, no matter how badly I think I cannot do it. 

5. Being brave. I've recently had to do and say a lot of things that I really needed to say and do but didn't think I could ever. 

6. My Boss. She is an awesome woman, and she shows me everyday the things I can do. She makes where I want to be in the future seem so real.

7. Choosing to let go. Anyone can tell you, letting go of hurt and anger is so hard but you are so much better for doing it. I choose to do this recently, and I can honestly say I am thankful I did. 

8. The experiences {good and bad} that have made me who I am today, and the people who have walked with me through it all. 

9. Silence. I do the best thinking then. 

10. Thankful for the fact that I am able to be thankful

With so many things to be thankful for everyday, it surely can't suck to be you! 

Try it, what are you thankful for?


Friday, December 9, 2011

This Time of the Year

Whoever says friendship is easy has obviously never had a true friend!

I completely agree with the quote above. I always say friendship is never easy, and neither is any relationship with two different people. But true friendship stays true even in the midst of all the hardship. I always seem to keep learning this same lesson every year. It is hard to find true friends, because everyone these days comes to you posed as the greatest friend you could ever have but before you know it, they have done a number on you and you are left shocked. Why some of us still get shocked, I don't know, but this year I came across a lot of people, became close with some, but still at the end of the year I find myself thinking 'how did we get here' 

The saddest part about this time of the year is that I lose someone I thought so dear to me. Last year same story, this year, we are at it again. It is only then when I tell myself 'I can't anymore' that I realise that this person hasn't actually been a friend to me for the longest time.
It's funny but I use my birthday as a way of telling, it might be a bit selfish, but I always use the way my friends treat me on my birthday as a way of telling how they actually feel about me. I make a big deal out of peoples birthdays, especially those that are SO close to me, so when the same is not returned to me from those exact same people, I raise the red flag. Like I said, this could be selfish, we are not all the same, and people show they care in different ways, but there are times you just know.
So this year, I had to 'break up' with someone I used to call my BEST FRIEND. Do I miss her, yes, but do I regret my decision, no. We all deserve someone in your life that will be true to you no matter what. We should not have to question day in and day out whether someone is infact your friend, these are the things that you should just know without a doubt.
That's the problem with me, I am forever questioning who my friends are, it's not fair on me and it's not fair on them. Suddenly someone changes on you, or suddenly someone has a lot of negative things to say about you, or suddenyl someone decides 'I want new friends now' whatever the case is, I seem to have a case of frenemies! People who just come into my life for a reason and season, but never a lifetime.
My mother always tells me, the older you get the less friends you have, and I am now starting to see her point. 
A shout out to the THREE people that remain my special friends throughout the years! (",) 

 Feel free to share stories of any friends lost, or friends gained? (",)


Monday, October 24, 2011

This little bugger called age!

It was my birthday this past week, and needless to say I had a great time. There was definitely lot's of cake and alcohol, and laughter.

But with all the good times in play you can't help but notice the voice at the back of your mind screaming  
'I'm getting older, I'm getting older' 
Getting old is something I have a love/hate relationship with. I can never really decide which it is I am happy about. 
I get excited about my birthday but I am like damn I wish I was still 21.

Either way I am a year older now, {not much could be done about that} and I was advised that it's at this age {23} that I should stop telling people my age. It's apparently some thing that we women do, where we don't tell people our age anymore because we are afriad of sounding too old. 

All I know is when you get older people tend to start asking you these odd questions. Like first of all, 'how does it feel now that you are 23?' Uhm...... 
It's like something is supposed to have magically switched on in your body when the clock strikes 00:00 on your birthday. 
I would really just like to respond saying 'I honestly just feel the same way I did last night, when I was 22, how do you feel?'

The best this year was when I was asked about marriage. 
People asked things like are you thinking about marriage? At what age do you want to get married? 
Wait what? 

Give me a second to enjoy the fact that I was born today then we can talk about other things. 
And no I was not thinking of marriage, if I am it's because you planted the idea in my head. 

Why is it the older you get the more people pile responsibilities on you? 
I know with age comes responsibility but right now I choose only to be responsible for myself. Is this wrong?
Who knows, next year someone might just ask me when I am going to have a baby, or when am I going to buy my own house. 
It's crazy the things age do to you. Makes you think of rushing your own life. because "time is running out" hmmmm
How does age make you feel? 


Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Guest Post From a gentleman at Forever Fred Astaire

Hello Lovelies! 

I hooked up with the lovely PJ over at Forever Fred Astaire to bring you this guest post. He is a real life friend, and awesome fashionista.
His blog is truly amazing if I do say so myself, and if you live, breathe, eat, sleep fashion then Forever Fred Astaire is your one stop shop to all this and more. 

 This is him and this is what he has to say about living on a budget

As I get ready to graduate from University, I realise it has been quite a phenomenal experience; more especially as a fashion enthusiast. It’s almost as though, the world was looking to push my whole anatomy; more that of my wallet than anything!
Being a university student usually means living on a budget. Living on a budget for a fashionisto, however, is nothing short of challenging. 

The pain that is having to save for whatever gotta-have-or-I-die garment lasts forever and even echoes once it’s sold out. Looking back, I honestly have no clue how I did it. But whatever it was, it was well worth the sacrifice!

Still, I will not exaggerate to appease this post. There are a few tricks hidden under sleeves and secrets a young man such as I, of flair [LOL], hold. Two words – bargain hunting. Where, you ask? Everywhere! Nothing is ever good enough and you can never have too much. Menswear is naturally more costly than women's wear so there alone is a greater reason to seek above and beyond. 

Many would have thought it near impossible to stretch every South African Rand to the max but ask a ‘varsity student because they know the ones and twos -- cross-country all over the city for the lowest deals and everything! Thrift stores, flea markets and yard sales are all good friends of the stylish as almost anything can be dug up out of there and, in all its splendor, shine just like treasure. In a lot of ways, it actually is a lot of fun because in as much as high-end malls as perfect, they don’t have every little thing that completes, for instance, the most flamboyant street style or punk-chic look.

However, some may wonder as to what lays beneath the imperative need to be a branded fasho and thus misapprehensions arise suggesting people with a taste for style are most likely egotistical, impractical and superficial; of course absolutely untrue. Fashion and style speak character and therein lays the whole point! 
I’ll elaborate: Personally, University saw me achieve all of what I never would have anticipated and these achievements only made me want to stand out and be more than a statistic but rather a separate identity of supernova heights! Allowing my artistic identity to reflect through style, not only made me feel better about myself but also made me work smarter. I ceased to be a mere ‘student number’ to my lectures but became the guy synonymous with fashion references. That and the addition of substance; anyone can hold a look but one must be potent.  

Fashion is identity. It is arguably the most compelling of the arts through visuals, touch and smell allowing anyone and everyone to be whoever they want to be. This is why it is worth all the hassle –- 

If you want to know more from this guy :) click here 

Hope you enjoyed a lesson on budget shopping! I know I could have used this long ago... I could have learned a thing or two from him... *sigh* where was he when I was buying those Aldo heels! WHERE!  


Saturday, October 8, 2011

Fill in the blank..... Saturday?

I've been gone for way too long.
No reasons, no excuses. Just Hi. I am back.

I am glad I took a little time off though. I now know the head space I am in, and the direction I want to take with many things in my life. Starting with this blog. (",)

But until then I thought I would do something I have never done in my corner of the internet, and that is take part in what many of you seem to do every Friday, and that is Fill In The Blanks. I decided to this today (Saturday) because I can and I missed yesterday so...

Here goes...

1. Something popular that I can't stand/just don't "get" is Gyming... I Just don't get it. Maybe I just don't do it right. If so, someone teach me. 

2. Something unpopular that I secretly love is reading books. Okay I don't secretly love this, but I do feel its becoming so unpopular these days. No one reads books. Unless it's a textbook and they have to. 

3. When I've had a bad day I tend to want to sleep it off. Sleep makes time move faster. 

4. I'd prefer being in a small group of people than being lost in a crowd of people. 

5. Something that makes me nervous is the possibility of my future plans not working out. 

6. Something worth fighting for is Love. 

7. When people think of me, I hope they think of me as the person they can trust and depend on.

Hope the weekend is proving everything you hoped it would be so far. 


Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Something Given, Not Borrowed.

Two days I watched the movie Something Borrowed, which I had been dying to watch for some time. 
It was nothing like I expected. That's both a good and bad thing.
Good, because I enjoyed it.
Bad, because I did not enjoy it as much as I thought I would. 

Tell me if this is just me...... 

But there really is a girl and guy code that exists right? 

Well there you go..... and this movie went against all things code in my opinion. 
I honestly believe in code, and if not code, then friendship. 
I believe if a friend likes, dated, or is dating someone then they are automatically off limits. 
This shouldn't even be a rule. This is just standard. 
Guys have codes and they stick by them so well..... uhm well, much better than we ladies do. 

I say......

If your friend knows that you secretly like someone, they have no right to out you in front of said someone, and then if after outing you have the right mind to deny it {still in front of said someone}, and your friend takes that chance to ask said someone out. 
Who does this? I don't care whether I denied it or not, my best friend should know if I have feelings for the guy right? 
I mean I am only denying it because you are taking the secret out of secret crush. You should know better a s a best friend. 

Any way, this happens and there is pretty much nothing you can do about it. You try act cool, because you don't want to blow the cover you so nicely laid out for yourself. But if said someone (who clearly likes you too) asks you if this is actually okay with you, and looks at you like 'but I like you' and you go on to act all nonchalant and 'you guys make a great couple' then 
you had a clear opening to stop what could possibly hurt you, and own up to how you really feel. 
I understand that you can't go from, 'we are just friends' to 'no this is not okay' in five seconds. 
Hello Schizo. 
But, you could just pull your friend aside and tell her stop it, and then have 'the talk 'with said someone the next day.

I also say......

Something that's given should not be taken away. You gave said someone away, and you should go into a corner and sit and think about the decision you just made. But that's it. It's done. 
You can not wait until your best friend, {who by the way you still kept as one} decides to get married to ruin everything for her. 
I don't care if you like, or are attracted to someone, but if that person is your best friends fiance then keep it all locked up. 
You will not go and have a one night stand with said person.
If anything ever meant anything to you in the beginning, you sort it out BEFORE they decide to get rings involved.

Any way that happens, and then you decide to continuously see said person behind your best friends back, while she plans the wedding and tells you how much she loves you everyday? 
Who does that? 
Please don't tell me someone in love. 
If both those people mean something to you, the least you can do is tell your best friend upfront that you have feelings for said person, and have for a long time. 
Deal with it that way. things are already messed up, and there are bound to be tears but at least we are being honest. 
Don't try make it a secret. Look how well that turned out for you in the beginning.  

I just say.....

what starts badly, ends badly. 
And I don't know if it's just me but friendship is truly a rare gift.. I would want to keep that above all else. 
and I honestly believe if people are meant to be they will be. But it should never be at the expense of someone else.

What are your thoughts? 


Stopping By, To Say.....

I honestly hate it when I go AWOL from my blog for too long.
I actually can't control it sometimes, believe it or not.
But, I'm back... and first things first I would like to welcome my newest followers.

Welcome to Lu3Lus Crossing... you guys make me happy each time I log on and see those little numbers increase. Thank you for visiting and following my tiny space of the internet. I do hope you stay... :)

Secondly, for those who have been following my Friday Fancies, 2 weeks ago I was the winner of the 'Like' competition on {Long Distance Loving} *does cartwheels and back flips, while trying not to break things*
Thank you for everyone that voted for me.
If you want to take part in the fun, and possibly be a winner yourself, head over to {av} and she will take very good care of you.
Take a look here to see the outfit that I created, that got me the most likes.

Because I have been so busy, I haven't got around to doing the things that I actually had lined up. But just to keep you guys posted, I have a guest post coming soon from one of my dear friends, PJ. 
HE, yes he, {he is one of the only male followers I have}, will be joining us soon.
He is into fashion, just like I am, in fact, even more than I am. So I hope he makes you as happy as he makes me daily.

I had a chocolate chip cookie mission that I need to share with you guys... So that is another thing that I will be doing soon.
I had fun doing it, I liked the challenge, and now that I did it... I am sure to set myself some more challenges.
You guys can shoot me ideas too. If there is anything you think I can try tackle in the kitchen, please let me know. As crazy as this sounds I am so serious.... anything at all. (",)

That's it for now friends.
Hope you are having a lovely week.


Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Blog Swap------- > Summer Loving

Hi Friends,

I am excited today to introduce a very lovely girl I met through 20 something bloggers, she is so sweet, and friendly and really just amazing for someone I barely even know. She blogs over at *Extreme & Fabulous*  {please do check it out} and her blog is exactly that. Her about me section had me in giggles, mainly because she sounds exactly like me. I think we have a thing going :)
Any way today we are participating in a blog swap, you can catch me over at her site, and she will be taking hostage of you guys for a little while. Show her some love, you can either leave a comment here, or on her site if you please. 

Without further ado I present to you Simran from Indonesia... :) I hope you enjoy the post as much as I did.

Hello summer lovers ;)!

So, the theme for this blog swap is SUMMER.. :) Well, I come from a country that has summer all year round and on certain months rainy weather. Yes, I come from Jakarta, Indonesia  and for those of you who have 4 seasons don’t get too jealous *wink*.  I am supposed to talk about my summer, honestly, I really have nothing much to talk about but yes it is not my favorite season but I kinda have no choice :).  

The past few as you shall call it SUMMER months have been quite normal but the highlight of my Summer so far would definitely have to be my trip to Bali. For those who have been to Bali, you will know that it is one place that is a must visit :). We in Indonesian call Bali Island “Pulau Dewata” which means Land of the Gods, which according to me no better saying can describe the place.

I had an extremely fruitful trip. I didn't do the fun outdoor activities that you would normally do when going to a beach but I gained a lot in this trip. It is not my first trip, I’ve been to Bali numerous times and love it every time I go there. Thus, I shall share with you what I gained from this trip.

Subsequently,  the past few months has been quite hectic for me and somehow, I started feeling lost in the sense, I complained a lot, became whinny, always mostly negative, never satisfied with what was going on in my life for some reason. I knew within myself this wasn't the person I was. Then out of the blues my parents told me we were going to Bali, I was normal about it didn't want to spoil it by getting overexcited. I have come to a point in life where I don't plan my days, I prefer not to, and when going on a trip I’d just go and see how it goes from there. Upon reaching Bali, that’s it I just felt so at home, so peaceful. That is exactly how my 4(four) days in Bali went by. I stayed at a hotel which had a beach front view from the breakfast&dining area. I enjoyed watching the waves every morning. I promised myself though, that this trip I will not think of literally ANYTHING and be completely relaxed. I kept that promise and literally thought of nothing, I had my cellphone with me but was mostly oblivious of its existence thus I only had a lot to gain and nothing to lose.

I admired nature,  enjoyed views of the beach, sounds of the waves, the stillness of the atmosphere,read a book in silence, watched Traditional Balinese dances, took pictures and the highlight of my trip was having the privilege to witness two of the most beautiful sunsets two days in a row. How awesome is that! :). That indeed was just the highlight of my trip and I didn't have to go to a special place or wait for a specific time as it was just outside the dining area of my hotel by the beach. I have no words to describe how utterly indescribable the feeling was, and  how wondrous the Lord’s creation is that’s what it made me recognize. It’s like it make you feel you are one step closer to the Creator! Best part, I captured the moments, yay! Have attached the pictures below and added two quotes which somewhat describes how I felt:

Sunset scenes for two days 
"When I admire the sunset or the beauty of the moon, my soul
expands in worship of the creator" 
Mahatma Ghandi

Sunset of two days – Bali
“To watch a sunset is to connect with the Divine.” – Gina De Gorna

At the end of my trip I felt at peace with myself, completely relaxed and realised so many issues I had and resolved them to, with myself that is. In entirety, I felt like a whole improvised version of me and felt like I actually went on a holiday :). 

Glimpse of Balinese Traditional Dance

For that reason, I recommend this to you too.Yes, if you haven’t visited Bali you totally SHOULD! And, if you go on a holiday, make sure you actually go on a HOLIDAY. Don’t plan, just decide where to go and go. Flow with it and abstain from technology, spend time with your family/friends, enjoy nature and be amazed! Trust me it works wonders cause I’ve tried it *wink*.

That, fellow readers was my Summer. And it is still going on ;). But, it was a journey for me of lessons I learnt by myself and a journey of self-discovery. Everyday, we are striving to become a better version of our self and sometimes even a short trip can make us realize things we probably would not think of amidst the hecticness of the city life. A trip gives us a span of time to stop and think and feel. I hope you all will gain something to from your trips or maybe your everyday life. Hope the summer brought you such moments too. Take time despite your busyness to stop and spend time with yourself, without cellphones, without noise and listen to yourself. This helps a lot in answering all your questions and also makes you worry less about what should and is about happen. You will learn to appreciate your moments more.

Cheers to a better and brighter YOU... Expect the Unexpected!
P.S : To readers who are from Indonesia, I’d like to say to my fellow Indonesians Happy 66th Independence Day! MERDEKA! :) 

What is your definition of SUMMER?

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Happy Birthday Madonna

Madonna turns 53 today!



How is it possible that she has not aged a day.
To looking like this when we are 53!

 She is such an iconic woman, and I love her. 
Happy Birthday Madonna. 


Monday, August 15, 2011

Old Love

I been out of the dating game too long now, not that I am complaining. Some things are just much better when you got that special someone in your life. 
Shout out to the Mr.
But, I can't help but notice that so much has changed. 
I kind of get to live the single life through my friends and the stories they tell me and as fun as it might sound, things just aren't done the way they used to be. 

I had a friend say to me not so long ago that to get the attention of a girl, you need to have a blackberry. First of all I thought it was a materialistic sort of statement, that you have to have all the finer things in life to have a girl look your way. 
But, No. he actually meant in order for you to actually speak to the girl, even say 'hi there how are you', you need to be able to reach her the only way she knows how otherwise you are wasting your time.
You can say all you want to her but half of the conversation will be lost on her because she is too busy messaging her friends on her blackberry. 
The only way to get this girls attention is then to join her on BBM, and pull whatever moves you had planned over the phone. You get more points for sending her a voice note than actually striking up normal conversation. 

What can I say, this is the era I live in and I should probably expect nothing less, but I wish I could go way back in to time, and experience dating their way. When people had meetings by their favorite tree, or have picnics in the meadow, or go on carriage rides. 
Seems more fun and intimate and real. Those were the days when people used to make an effort to please the ones they fancy, and this effort came from the heart and not really the pocket. 

These days all people really ever want to do is go to the movies, cocktail lounge or the club. 

What happened to having picnics in the park? 

I suggested this to the Mr awhile ago, and I got a 'who does picnics these days' 
exactly my point. 
The art of picnics is lost, we would now rather just take someone out to breakfast, than put time and effort in creating a special meal. 
Don't get me wrong, take me out to breakfast any day, please feel free. Just know that there are a million and one other options for next time. We don't have to keep doing the same thing. 

What happened to long walks to nowhere really?

I think romantic walks are so beautiful. Don't you?
The Mr and I took one quite some time ago in my neighborhood and boy was that fun. 
We danced in the street, laughed, talked and just had a ball.
I realize that most of us live in places surrounded by buildings and cars and all sorts of unworldly noises. It's most probably the most unromantic thing you could do taking a walk in such an environment, but let me just tell you that walk the Mr and I took made my day.
We didn't walk far, we didn't plan anything, it just happened, and it made a difference. 

What happened to hand written letters?

I had a post about this awhile back, you can take a look at it here, I just don'y understand why such an art can be put to waste. 
Letter writing is the most intimate, sincere way to tell someone how you feel, and I just wish more of us did this. 

What happened to carriage rides?

Okay, so maybe we can't really do this anymore. traveling on horses on these roads we have may be a bit to much, but how fun would this be. 
Just sitting there with your love, enjoying the scenery, not really in a hurry to get anywhere. 
I want to do this one day, and I wish I lived back in the time where they had no choice but to do it. 
Things were really much easier back then. 


I always say, everything back then was about love, and everything now is about money. 
I will choose the love era any day! 

What are things you guys wish still were in play? Or what do you think about the dating game these days?
{all images from weheartit}


Saturday, August 13, 2011

Getting Reacquainted With My Kitchen

Lately I have been finding many reasons for me to spend more time in my kitchen. The people that know me well, know that this room is probably the room in the house I spend the least amount of time in.
I swear, if I could make tea anywhere else besides the kitchen, I probably wouldn't know what a kitchen looks like.
I realize this is something I should probably be embarrassed about, you know, being a woman and all.
And I am, but I am not going to deny that I actually like the fact that the Mr can take charge in the kitchen.
I always had this fantasy of marrying a chef one day, and this is the closest I have gotten, so I guess I tend to get a little carried away living my fantasy forgetting that the Mr probably had a fantasy of his own about marrying a girl that would cook for him.... sometimes.

So, I need to do something about this.

I have been watching Master Chef Australia like a bad habit. I swear, it's one of the shows I would probably kill someone over if I missed.
It makes me so excited, hungry too, but mostly excited.

You would think if I enjoy a cooking show that much, the least I could do is practice a recipe or two in the kitchen right?
Well something must have worked, because not so long ago I found myself Googling recipes on the internet.
I was about to move into a new house, and I thought cooking something extraordinary would be a nice little welcome. Three weeks in, nothing.
But that need to do something in the kitchen is still there. Now, I am leaning more towards baking.

I have never really baked a day in my life, and this is quite shameful. I love desserts, and cakes and all things made in the oven, and it's sad that I have to go to the shop every time I have a craving instead of just whip up some amazing mixture and put it in the oven.
This one I will not let go off, so I tried to make a welcome to the new house meal and it failed, this one won't.
And, I need you guys to help me. 

Yesterday I spent the majority of the day trying to find amazing recipes that I could try out. I was looking for simple, yet interesting.
After all that I found namely, nanaimo bars, peanut butter balls, coconut macaroons, yellow butter cake and chocolate crinkles, to name a few.
I decided on chocolate chip cookies.

This is most probably the easiest, and less interesting out of the bunch, I know. But let's face it, they are still the best cookies ever and this is my first time. I want to bake, not create a fire in my house.

I think I have created a challenge for myself, and I accept.
This week next time, I will share my Chocolate Chip Cookie Mission with you, hoping everything goes well.

Wish me luck.

{all images via pinterest}

Any one want to share any baking secrets with me?