Selfie Esteem

So like, the selfie, we all do it, no matter how hard we try not to turn the front camera on and become self employed as a model and photographer, we all do it. I didn't realise till the other day how conditioned I was to seeing selfies (it's not like I don't see about ten different selfies on Instagram a day), until someone who I don't know followed me and I had to start searching through their pictures for a selfie just so I could see.

I'm not opposed to the selfie, sometimes we really do have a fabulous lip colour or hairstyle that we would like to show off our friends to see. I do it all the time too. I may not post all of them to social networks but anybody going through my phone is going to think I am absolutely obsessed with myself. It's fun.. camera on, lift, pout, flash, next one; camera on, lift, smile, flash, next one; camera on, lift, stare into nothingness, flash. 

At first every time I even thought of taking a selfie I felt like a vampire trying to walk in the sun. Felt like I was going to get burned for it, because we've all heard what they had to say about the selfie. Don't do it. They say that this (especially posting them online in lure of getting above 10 likes, just me?) is pure narcissism. And I realise that after saying the whole 10 likes thing, maybe just maybe they have point. But also when we completely ignore this point they are trying to make, they really don't have a point. When I take a selfie, I am either completely bored out of my mind, I have no one to take this photo of me and I have just GOT to show you my new bangs (I really don't) or I honestly just like the way I look and my Instagram is my Instagram after all, so naturally I just upload it, crop it, filter it, caption it and post it. How does this make me a narcissist? It's basically just a whole bunch of, it's my account, I can do whatever I want with it, it's for me not you anyway.

But at the same time

I don't really believe this whole, I'm posting this for myself stuff that we like to feed ourselves sometimes. Yes I'm posting up the picture because I want to, the application does say 'upload picture' any way but ultimately the I-don't-care-what-no-one-thinks thing is a little hmm. My logic is, if we put anything online it becomes everybody's, it's not just for ourselves otherwise it wouldn't be up there.Would you put up your latest diary entry online, you know, the one about the boy, your secret crush, the one who is dating your friend? No, I didn't think so. So this stuff online, is not just for ourselves. So we care a little what people think, because you had to think about it. You had to think about the right angles, filters, photo tricks and captions to be able to put your best self face forward.

But we have heard all this before right? blah blah blah selfie, blah blah blah, social approval, blah blah blah vain. And to that I say.....

Lu3Lu

Xx

"Couldn't Get Michael Kors if you was F**king Michael Kors"

I've had my eye on a few Michael Kors goodies of late, and I blame my addiction to Pinterest. Like it's not enough that I generally just want to get my hands on anything fashionable, now I have Pinterest to make that ten times worse. So naturally because not everyone can gets what they wants, I have added the Michael Kors handbag collection to my wish list, for you kind souls out there *wink wink, nudge nudge*.

I'm sure most of us all know how hard it is to find a fashionable bag at a reasonable price, which is one of the reasons I have fallen in love with Michael Kors products, because even though they are pricey, they remain fairly affordable.

I tell you why in a second.

I have just spent most of my time assuming that this sort of luxury was 'above my pay grade' {I have always wanted to say that} and not something that I should be even looking twice at, so when Nicki Minaj sang "Couldn't get Michael Kors if you was f**king Michael Kors" I felt like I had to pay attention. But boy was I almost kind of sort of wrong, because yes their bags cost between 10, 000 to 7,000 South African Rands, and yes this is generally the price range you need to be prepared to see when you Google 'how much is a Michael  Kors bag' and then quickly Google after that 'No, how much is it really'...
but I realised that Michael Kors can still come through for a girl on a budget, because if between all that good-looking-I-can't-afford-these-kind-of-bags-stuff you are still able to find one that costs you about R 1,000 then hey, that is reasonably pricey right?
It is MK after all.

Either way, you could totally get it, and I know I can so get it. In fact we all can get it, and we all should..............

............................ Get Michael Kors bags is what I mean. 

All Images from WeHeartIt

Lu3Lu

Xx

Dinner Party Guests: Marilyn Monroe & Audrey Hepburn

Ever think of who {dead or alive} you would invite to a dinner party? I do, all the time, and even though my list changes changes quite often, almost all the time Marilyn and/or Audrey make the cut.
My mild obsession with Marilyn Monroe started after I watched My Week with Marilyn. Such a beautiful movie, and naturally {because I felt she was a very close friend of mine} I morphed into a mini detective trying to solve the age old mystery of her death. Audrey on the other hand, after finally watching Breakfast at Tiffany's {which I made a promise to do here} I finally got what all the fuss was about. I get that it was a movie, and none of it was real, but I just imagined myself hanging out with the lady on the screen and having an absolute good time.

Regardless, there is a reason why we as women use many of the things Marilyn and Audrey said then to apply to our lives now, because despite being popular for their acting, singing, fashion and style these women inspire young girls and women, in love, friendship, life, and womanhood.
I can definitely raise my hand to testify to this. I have caught myself a time or two relating to something they have said, sticking by it, and trying to apply it to my life, I mean no wonder I want to have them at my dinner party. What other secrets to life are they holding back?

Here are some of my favourites.

Marilyn Monroe

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they are right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together" 

"We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets." 

"Just because you fail once, it doesn't mean you are going to fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on and always always always believe in yourself, because if you don't then who will? So keep your head high, your chin up and most importantly, keep smiling because life is beautiful and there is so much to smile about" 

"It's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring" 

"For those who are poor in happiness, each time is a first time, happiness never becomes a habit." 

"I do not stop when I am tired, I stop when I am done..." 

Audrey Hepburn 

"I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it's the thing I like the most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It's probably the most important thing in a person." 

"You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him"

"As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping  others." 

"I decided very early on, just accept life unconditionally; I have never expected it to do anything special, yet I seemed to accomplish far more than I had ever hoped. Most of the time it just happened without my ever seeking it" 

"I don't take my life seriously, but I do take what I do - in my life - seriously"

I just love these ladies and what they stand for, they inspire {at least me} to go for what I want, be confident and happy as a woman.

Who would you invite to a dinner party?

Lu3Lu

Xx 

I need a shopping buddy! Anyone?

One word: Shopbop

Denim, Jackets, Dresses,Lingerie, Skirts Leather, Tops, Jumpsuits/Rompers, Swimwear, Sweaters, Pumps, Heels, Boots, Flats, Sandals, Clutches, Beach Bags, Totes, Shoulder Bags, Hobos, Wallets, Cashmere, Key Chains, Umbrellas, Belts, Hats, Hair Accessories, Gloves Sunglasses, Watches, Pants, Clogs, Weekend Bags

I think I'm in love.

Have you ever spent so much time on one website that at the end of it all you ask yourself 'what was I doing?'
Well, that was me all of last night and most of this morning. The only difference is I never had the 'what were you doing' feeling, I had the 'where are you going' one instead.
Every time I left the computer for a teeny weeny bit something kept pulling me back, and by something I mean Marc Jacobs, JNBY and Alice + Olivia.

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Shopbop is really such an amazing site, and it's no wonder I couldn't pry myself away. Who else feels that way when they visit?
It's also kind of funny that I only recently found out about it. {The rock I was living under says hi} But better late than never right?
I love the designers on this site, and whats even better is that some of these prices are actually reasonable.
I think.

But this is why girls never go shopping alone, how do they expect us to make some of these decisions by ourselves.
Which presents me with a problem I'm currently having......

I need a shopping buddy.

I've been given the chance to get anything from Shopbop {five second dance party} for the value of $100 thanks to Shopbop and Mellisa

............ and as it is I am so confused.

So hi shopping buddy (",)

What are some of the things you like? or would like to buy?

I would love any of your suggestions.
I'm so bad at shopping for myself, and even worse at shopping for others.
But it really doesn't matter if its something you like, or want, or would buy for a friend anything.
I just need inspiration and maybe then will I make up my mind.

Plus it will make this shopping experience fun. What do you say?

Let's go shopping!

Lu3Lu
xx

14 day challenge.

Lately it seems my dreams and I are battling weight issues. You see this is something I was not really aware of until I went to bed.

First I dream that I was in a race, I've been watching Pretty Little Liars and that Emily chick takes me back to the days where I used to swim, and compete and just enjoy being in the water. So here I was in my dream, swimming to the finish line, when I find myself no longer in a pool but on a field running cross country O_o. Any way, it all starts off really well until suddenly I turn into this fat blob and I just start rolling towards the finish line. I didn't stay in that dream long enough to find out what happened next. Although I'm sure I won.

RT @DannyThatGuy: #waystopissoffafatperson ask them which one is faster for you, running or rolling <--- I blame this tweet.

Then I dream that I'm sitting with my mother having chocolate daiquiris, and as I get up to go get something she says to me "but Lulu you are getting fat". I got out of that dream pretty quickly too, who knows what would have happened next.

*sigh*

All I know is that after these dreams I have been looking at myself a little differently now. I don't think I am fat, no I'm just noticing flab in places I hadn't before. It's making me contemplate outwardly things. Like running/jogging/moving my legs in a way that I have not before.
People that know me, know me for being lazy. yes, that's me. The one that prefers to get out of bed at 12 in the afternoon, the one that would rather order take out than cook everyday. that's the one, that's me.


Now all of a sudden this flab is messing with the status quo.

It got me thinking, now I'm not good in statistics of any kind. The subject kind, the one out of ten people kind, or the made up kind, but here is a statistic for you. As far as females are concerned the most spoken phrase in the English language is "I need to lose weight" right after "I hate him."
(It's true, Loogle it. That's right. LOOGLE- search engine stored in my brain.)

I don't know what it is with us females but we are always trying to lose weight. One of my friends is on the master cleanse diet - lemon juice, maple syrup, cayenne pepper powder, and water.

Yum. I bet she can't wait to take all that in.

Another of my friends is on the starvation diet

"can't talk now, focusing on staying alive by starving"

And some people I know are on that starts tomorrow diet

"I swear after this cake, pie and soda I'm done"

image from chrismadden.co.uk

Whatever the case is, we are always trying to lose weight. Something has to go, and for me right now that's my flab.

So I've decided I'm going to start living a healthy lifestyle, drink lots of water, lay off the take out, eat home cooked meals, eat lots of fruit, eat breakfast, exercise, and do all that boring stuff for at least two weeks. If this doesn't work, screw diets... I'm going to pray the flab away. At least with prayer I know I get results.

So for anyone also trying to lose something, weight, flab, whatever, BEST of luck. I know I need it. I hate breakfast, hate water, hate fruits, love take out. I'm. Going. To. Die.

Lu3Lu
xx

I'm a girl: I can be complicated without reason or explanation

Yet again we have another vampire series, as if True Blood, Vampire Diaries and Twilight weren't enough (not that I am complaining about Edward Cullen and the Salvatore brothers) But anyhoo this new series is called "The Gates" and it comes with the whole package, vampires, witches werewolves you name it, oh and lets not forget that "innocent civilian" that wants to save the community form bad things.
I'm not sure if I am warming up to it yet but I came across a line that really stuck with me "I'm a girl; I can be complicated without reason or explanation"
I agree!
Reasons: I'm a girl, I can be complicated, and more often than not I have no reason and explanation for it. This is not to say girls are allowed to do what they want when they want and get away with it, its more like we don't really know what we want. Ok, I take that back.... we know EXACTLY what we want, the problem is what we want changes so often that what we want today is not necessarily what we will want tomorrow.

Take for example a good friend of mine was Anti- Blackberry to the bone and Pro HTC and touch screen, today.......... she is a proud owner of a Blackberry Curve. Ask her to explain this sudden change of heart, the best answer you may get is "I like the buttons"

But what can I say, so what if girls are complicated, the best way i can describe it as is " the complexity of simplicity" we are complex yes, but at the same time more simpler than you can imagine.

Lu3Lu
xx